First, let me preface this by post by discussing Eat Pray Love. Have you ever read a book that had a profound effect on your life? Well, that book really was the paper-bound lifesaver I so desperately needed. Real talk: I was in a very tough spot in my life when that book presented itself to me. It was the book that came to me at the right place at the right time when I didn't even know I needed it. At that point in my life, I wasn't in a healthy relationship. I was sharing my life with someone that not only didn't support me but provided me with not one spark of joy. And we all know what Marie Kondo would do: THROW IT AWAY.
Eat Pray Love opened my eyes to so much. My copy—and the only copy I have ever owned—is tearing at the seams. I have highlighted and scribbled throughout that book every time I picked it back up. Why? Because as I have matured, I find that I am ready for different lessons. Lessons that I may not have been ready for during my countless re-reads.
However, when I first read the book, a light-bulb went off in my head, and I thought, SHIT. Yes, SHIT. For years I was continually reaching for straws in hopes that at least something, ANYTHING, would bring me some form of happiness. But nothing did.
I think most people believe that when they have devoted so much time to something (or in this case, someone), they have to "stick with it." But I am here to tell you that that is entirely untrue. If I continued to live my life under that false belief, I probably wouldn't be where I am today. That particular book was the slap in the face that I needed so that I could wake-up and fight for the life that I wanted. But more on this topic later.
My point is when you love a book so much you will pretty much read anything that relates to it. In this case, it's the follow-up book, Committed: A Love Story.
Now, I am only halfway through this book, and most of what I have read is Gilbert's research on the origin of marriage throughout various cultures, and of course, divorce. Having been through a horrible divorce (which is the basis of why Eat Pray Love came to be), she struggles with the idea of having to go down that path again.
When we last left her, she met Felipe, a Brazilian man and fell madly in love. This book picks up on a struggle they never thought they'd have to face: marriage. Even after they swore their love to one another and vowed never to marry (for they were too broken from the demise of their first marriages), the United States threw them a curveball: get married, or Felipe is not allowed back in the country. This would be a tough spot to be in, and I can sense within her writing how much she struggled with the idea of marrying again. Do I think that her hesitation comes from a place of lack of love? Absolutely not.
So far, I'm enjoying this book, but not as much as I did with Eat Pray Love, but of course, it's too soon to tell. However, I will post an update as soon as I'm finished reading. So stay tuned!
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Love, Danie Jaye